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Finding Me

Finding Me

Since beginning college I’ve learned a lot about myself. How I act, what I like, who I like, why I act the way I do, etc. These realizations have helped me become a better person towards others and myself, and I’ve grown tremendously. But as of late I haven’t been feeling that such growth has translated into my wardrobe. I have some tunics, a lot of heels, some dresses, skirts and such but nothing that yells “THIS IS ME!”

Now I’m changing that one step at a time. I recently took part in Hollister’s $25 Jeans Sale to expand my “wearable” jeans collection from four to six. (In reality I currently have 10 pairs of jeans from eight, but like all women I have my faves. These Hollister jeans have just joined the pack.) I also brought a new pair of heels and flats to match them and some flats to match my older heels from Charlotte Russe. Target and Ross are also particularly close, so I’ve brought a skirt or two and some blouses from them, but before this closet conquest began I had to plan.

First I needed to figure out where I was going– like I do before I take on any major task. I looked at my lifestyle and decided what I wanted my wardrobe to look like. Now part one is a bit harder on revamping your wardrobe because you discover a lot of new styles, and you want them all. The key here is to be practical. Take a good look at your life and be honest– if you don’t go to an abundance of weddings or the likes and you prefer your time with your children, than you probably don’t need an abundance of dresses. Believe me it’s hard when you see all the “A-line this” and “pencil that’s” that would look terrific for that one time you had to go to that one thing, but take it from me it’s a waste of money. I had already started a board on Pinterest with styles and full outfits I admired on other ladies, so when I reviewed those I just looked for what style filled the majority of my board. (If you don’t own a Pinterest 1) get one because it’ll change your life and 2) don’t fret because you can easily use magazines and blogs to find styles you like.) I found that the majority of my board consisted of everything pencil dress/skirt related for work/formal attire and a simple jean, top and shoes look for my more casual lifestyle. My board also included quite a bit of gowns and A-line vintage dresses, but again we have to remember to be practical when revamping our closets, so those won’t be on the purchase list just yet.

Once I had settled on what I wanted my closet to look like I began purchasing the required items for said project. I started at Ross, Charlotte Russe and of course Victoria Secret– you can’t revive your wardrobe and leave your undies out to dry…they needed a makeover too. I chose Ross because it’s really easy to find cute tops for really cheap and as a college student this is a must. However, everything that glitters ain’t gold, so Charlotte Russe was my store for the more naturally fragile things like scarfs and heels because quality ALWAYS beats quantity. Victoria Secret has been my go to for all things “unmentionable” for a while now, I just hadn’t acquired the amount of undergarments I’d like (i.e. my bra game needed some help.) I went to other stores too like JustFab, Amazon and Target; but those were my staple stores.

Now I found that the best way to shop is in pairs, that is in outfits. When I was younger I would go into a store and pick a top from here, a bottom from there, those cute shoes over there, or maybe that sweater/hoodie there and be on my way. (Mind you none of these things matched, and I often had to go home and play the memory game with my closet to make outfits out of new and “gently used” clothes.) This fiasco went on for a while until my friend’s mom sat us down to chat about shopping:

“When you buy clothes, always pay for what you get. If you buy cheap and get bad quality it’s your own fault… Always buy outfits together. Get the top, the bottom and the shoes together– if you don’t already have something at home– that way you know what you can wear it with.”

This tidbit of information stuck with me all these years, so when it was time to shop I brought outfits just how she had taught me. It would seem like a simple resolve to buy whole outfits instead of just pieces, but common sense isn’t so common.

My wardrobe is now slowly coming together– I have a minor shopping problem, so maybe slowly isn’t the word– but I’m starting to wake up and put together fabulous outfits with little to no effort. I just received three packages today; one with shoes, one with a jacket and another with a DVD. (That last one is for my midterm I promise.) The heels are cobalt blue and the flats are blue, blush and a hot pink. I’ve been waiting for them for a week, so I’m really excited to finally be able to wear them. It’s kind of hard to explain, but there’s this exhilarating feeling I get from turning my purchases into fab outfits that scream “THIS IS ME!”

 

Note: Some blogs I’ve read say that you also need to find your color scheme. That means that you choose a family, or families, of colors and purchase according to that group. I’m all for having the staple nude colors, but I don’t know if I’d say I have go to colors. I have a lot of corals and blues, but not on purpose, and I barely wear either of them. I just buy what I like when I see it. I feel that if you’re purchasing individual items, than having a color scheme for your closet is good so you know that you have something at home to match it. However, if you have an abundance of neutral clothes and/or you buy your clothes as outfits (and not individual pieces) you should have no problem. 🙂

 

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Posted by on February 18, 2015 in Be Yourself

 

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1 out of 100

1 out of 100

 

I’m a WOMAN! It’s something I’ve been waiting for since I was 15– you know that stage were you only have 3 years until you’re “grown”, you know everything, and bugs still make you squeal. Yep. I’d been waiting for it, and now that I’m turning 21 I’m ready to hit the pause button and embrace womanhood. Now with great titles come great responsibility, and I’ve taken them on willingly.

As a woman I have the right to pay bills, vote, be equally employed, laugh, shed tears, go crazy, go to war, stay at home, raise a family, get a degree, argue, and eat chocolate– my favorite. This new age of adulthood comes with a lot of rights, including the one to love myself and sometimes not even want to look at myself, and as a woman I’m accepting that more with each fleeting day.  And I find that as I accept I won’t always like what reflects in the mirror, my days get easier and my love grows stronger.

The CIA says there’s about 107 men to every 100 women. That means that seven lucky men are going to have to make that sacrifice and take on an extra wife– and I think my boyfriend got the luck of the draw. (Now I’m neither for or against polygamy… my stance is whatever makes you happy. Just don’t ask me to share. So I’m not saying he has a second girlfriend, but with my new found right he may feel like he does. )

From day to day I wake up thinking about who I want to be.  For as many faces and colors are in that photo, I wake up in the mood of each one. Some days I’m silly, others I’m philosophical. Some days I’m Aubrey, and others I’m Pink. (My boyfriend’s right is to figure out which I am from second to hour and act accordingly.)  I use to think there was a problem with my flip  in characters; like by some divine law I was restricted to one personality for the rest of my life– and some of that may have been because of the all the movies I watch. Aside from Miss Congeniality not many movies/shows I grew up with portrayed that a girl could be glamorous and adventurous. So when I found myself changing out of jeans and a tee with hopes of embracing the mascara and sandals the next day, I thought I just didn’t know who I was.

Now six years later… I see that I always have, and that a lot of people like it. Gone are the days where I look to my glamour girls and sigh because their makeup is intrusive and I’m not even sure what it’s called. Gone are the days where the dawn of a new school year brings about the decision to either be girly or athletic. I’m going to be comfortable! And that’s the only decision that truly matters. As long as you’re comfortable in what you wear, look presentable, and use all hygienic measures you’re good to go.

I can’t pinpoint when I made this realization. I know being in a sorority where there are a variety of girly athletes and glamour girls has helped, but most of it I would say was accepting and maturing. Accepting that maybe  Whitney was on to something when she sang “I’m Every Woman”, and maturing into my own skin without over comparing myself to my peers. My mom tells everyone I love wearing pants– but that doesn’t mean I can’t own a couple hundred dresses.

Caitlin Moran said it best:

“When a woman says, ‘I have nothing to wear!’, what she really means is, ‘There’s nothing here for who I’m supposed to be today.”

 

 

 
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Posted by on July 28, 2014 in Be Yourself

 

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Styles to Impress this V-day

Valentine’s Day is centered around love and happiness. Commercials for jewelry and chocolate run rampant, and television portrays the oppression men face as they try to find the perfect gift. Yet one noble act goes unnoticed year after year. It’s the behind-the-scenes look of how the woman prepares for the big day. Sure, her gift doesn’t necessarily have to be anything fancy, but the day is practically centered around her. She stresses over how she’ll look when the flowers arrive, or what to wear to the evening meal. I’m here to address and soothe those worries. I won’t give you the secret to that perfect outfit, but I will give you the tools to find it and so much more.

The first step is to figure out what to wear. Many opt for red on the special day, but to stand out for your beau, you need to wear something flattering. Find a color that compliments your skin tone or brings out your eyes. This will give you a glow they can’t resist. Pinks, blues and corals are colors that offer a look of sophistication while still maintaining their sex appeal. Sophisticated has become the new sexy in the past year with the pencil skirt and high-waisted pant. Pencil skirts and bodycon dresses flatter most body types, creating a smaller waist and accentuating your bust and bum. They’re ideal because they’re easy to throw on and take little effort to accessorize. However, if you’re not sure about a style it’s always best to try it on in the store. Bend over, twirl, jump, check out your panty line– whatever worries you have should be handled in the dressing room before making a purchase. The last thing you need on your big day is a fashion faux pas.

Once you have your outfit picked, the next issue is always the shoes. If your style is one that calls more attention to your wardrobe than to your footwear, neutral colors will be the shoe tones for you. Nudes, blacks and whites go well with every color. If you rather your shoe game have a little pop, match your footwear with the outfit or with a color/pattern that will complement the style. Just remember that comfort should always be your priority. If you’ll be on your feet most of the night, you may want to skip the pumps. Instead try a pair of wedges – which offer comfort without forfeiting style. Another option are flats. With a variety of colors and styles, they offer a cute and comfy option for your night of pampering. Finally, you need to decide on a hairstyle. Long, straight hair tends to make the face look longer and the body slimmer, so changing it up a bit will only make them fall even more. Loose, flowing hair is great for mid-length to short skirts and dresses. Curls and waves will allow for an elegant look that will frame your face. These can be achieved with rollers, curling irons and even flat irons. If you’re dress is long however, a pinned up hairstyle would look best. Putting hair up in a bun or braid will get the hair out of your face, allowing your eyes to glance freely into theirs. Having your hair half up will also help if wearing a longer item. If you have short to medium length hair and want to switch it up, adding curls or waves could add some flare to your do. This style will also keep the hair out of your face and look great in pictures.

No matter how you choose to flutter the heart of your significant other, make sure you’re comfortable and confident. Remember, if they didn’t find you attractive they wouldn’t be with you. If something makes you uncomfortable, don’t wear it. You’ll just be distracted during your day. And, most importantly, give yourself enough time to get ready.

 
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Posted by on February 18, 2014 in Articles

 

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