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Where Cosmo got it wrong…2015 Trends that need to R.I.P

Where Cosmo got it wrong…2015 Trends that need to R.I.P

Twitter has erupted with the new discovery of Cosmopolitan’s “21 Beauty Trends That Need to Die in 2015”  due to the fact that all the black women included in the article are featured in the “R.I.P.” category or  trends that need to go.  Such categorization has some publicly encouraging the boycotting of the magazine, while others have taken to the social media site with hashtags like #whatitsliketobeablackgirl. Yet my problem isn’t with the topic of categorization but why it exists to begin with, so in response to Cosmopolitan and all those crying wolf over this “problem” here’s my list of Attitudes That Need to Die in 2015.

1. Playing the victim: While racism in this world does still exist, it is important to know how to choose your battles. Sure there are 4 women in this article who are black, and all of them are in the “R.I.P.” category, but what about the remaining 17 who are either White or Hispanic who are also in this category? They aren’t taking to social media and hashtagging their lives away because it doesn’t matter. Sure as a community we have been dealt some dirty hands, but does this article really compare to the Trayvon Martins of this world? I think not. I mean sure Cosmopolitan has apologized, wonderful, but what about the apologies for all the deaths and injustice? Hmmm…crickets. So take a step back, reevaluate the seriousness of situations, and wonder why you’re worrying about the opinions of shrimp if you consider yourself a shark.

2. Discounting people because of race, features, etc.: One important thing I noticed about the Huffington Post article– which brought my attention to this outrage in the first place– is that they continually discount Nicole Richie’s inclusion in the Cosmo list because she is mixed. The same thing occurred when President Obama first took office as the world continually referred to his Hawaiian/White descent and began to discount him as a black man. However this isn’t just a problem in the media but also in our everyday lives. Just look on social media and you’ll see team light skins and team dark skins, team relaxed, natural, texlaxed, Hatian, Jamaican and everything in between. The constant segregation of our community from the inside needs to stop, and we need to learn to embrace and learn from each others strengths and weaknesses.

3. Instigating: Along with those who play the victim every time a horn sounds are those who add flame to the fire by supporting the ignorance whether knowledgeable or not. Take for instance all those who have retweeted others post on the Cosmo article, and of all those retweets all the incorrect information that was spread. Think of all the individuals who may not have taken the time to view the article themselves, but still tweeted about it just because it was trending.

4. Boxing: Now I don’t mean boxing as in self-defense. By all means if you feel the need to learn to protect yourself, as I feel we all should, do so and have fun while doing it. Feel empowered by doing it, but when you’re boxing people into a stereotype, look or any other aspect of someone’s life just because you think it’s not okay I have to stop you. The whole article is based on styles that some secluded group of people says is out of style. Changing my hair color from ombre to some fancy new dying trick should not be something I’m told needs to “R.I.P.” and it definitely shouldn’t be something I’m put down for. Last time I checked, my capability to shave one side of my head did not become more difficult just because a new year rolled around. Therefore I’d appreciate it if Cosmo and everyone other “fashion magazine” could learn that they have no right to tell me how to dress or do my hair. I understand that it’s all a part of the game, but if that’s the case then change the rules because you have a big enough audience to do so. If you refuse to change the rules, then stop acting like you’re trying to help empower women when every other season you’re telling them that they’re doing “it” wrong: from hair, to love, to smiling, to friending, to posting, to moisturizing, to sex, to family…how is you discounting my judgment suppose to empower me? It’s simply going to conform and destroy me.

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Posted by on April 5, 2015 in Be Pensive


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Tweet like a Pro

   Twitter is one of the most used places on the web, but it’s also one of the most misused. It’s hard to imagine that the same place you can get your news is the same place someone is saying “Just a burg nah finna pik up da kids,” but it happens. However, you don’t have to be that person. Your Twitter account can open doors of opportunity you didn’t even know existed, and it can do so without making you seem like some bland nutjob trapped in a cubicle.

    The first thing to accurately portray yourself on this social media site is your photo. It’s the first thing everyone looks for when they search for you, so make it look nice. This means no solo cups, no “blunts” or cigarettes, no gang signs and no middle fingers- just keep your hands out of the picture to be safe. Given that it’s the first thing a future employer will see, you want your photo to look professional. Therefore, make sure your hair is out of your face, smile and dress appropriately (i.e. no peeking bra straps or dramatically low-cut tops, pull up your pants and lengthen your skirts). You’re also going to want to make sure the individual looking at your photo can see your face, so it’s best to take the photo from the bust up. Now, if you want to add some flavor to your profile you should make sure to include a header- that’s the big photo that will go behind your profile picture. Make sure the photo represents your interests and future endeavors. For example, I’d like to be a writer for Cosmo, so my header could either be a Cosmo magazine cover or something pertaining to beauty or fashion. Just don’t make it anything too confusing, you want the viewer to be able to tie your header in with your bio and tweets. Having a header that says you’re interested in fashion and a bio that’s about your singing career can be a bit misleading.

          Now for the tweets, which is honestly what Twitter is all about. Your tweets say a lot about you, whether you want them to or not, so handle with care. Just imagine that the Twitter symbol, a bird, is like a stork that brings your tweet babies to the world. You don’t want your tweet babies perverted by foul language or uncensored images, so don’t send tweets with either. If you went out with friends and did some unmentionable things, store it in the back of your mind not on your social media. Another aspect of tweeting is how you tweet, which ties into your presence. You’re not going to tweet anything perverse, but you are going tweet. When you do they need to portray your interests and some of your opinions. If you hear about a new bill and you have an opinion, as long as it’s grounded in reason, tweet about it. If you see someone post something that interest you, retweet it or reply to it. Favoriting a tweet is good too. So if you honestly have no reply to the post, but you’d still like to show your approval go ahead and press the star. It shows the tweeter that you heard what they had to say and you understand, even if you don’t agree. Be cautious however, because anyone who looks at your tweets will be able to see the ones you have retreated and favorite.

         Twitter can be a lot of fun, and be the start to a new career when used wisely. However it can get a little tricky, so here are a few acceptable Twitter accounts to use as templates for your own. You will see that each of the provide their opinions on different articles without sounding bland. They also have appropriate photos for their profile picture, portraying who they are and allowing potential employers to identify them. In addition, their headers are professional- the lack of a header doesn’t take away from the profile. Their tweets are also related to who they are, showing their personality, without showing their personal lives. They are the perfect candidates for a job position in their field.                                      Paige Morgan Oswald

Paige Morgan Oswald      

Twitter: @Paige_M_Oswald

@FGCU 2016 – Staff Writer @FGCUEagleNews – Producing with @ESPN3 – Aspiring @CNN journalist –  @jou_fgcu & communication student – Poli sci nut





Sara Fischer      

Sarah Fischer

Twitter: @sarafischer

Co-author of CNN’s Political @GutCheckCNN, Just a Jersey girl looking for a good bagel in DC – …

Washington DC          



Jessica Souza

Jessica Souza      

Twitter: @Jessica_E_Souza

@JOU_FGCU major. Aspiring journalist. Staff writer @fgcueaglenews. #DunkCity 2016. I’m obsessed with @ColbertReport, @TheDailyShow & @SURFER_magazine.

            Southwest Florida    · 

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Posted by on January 29, 2014 in Be Professional


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Let’s Get Back to the Place

Sweaty palms, funky socks- they were supposedly lucky, crossed fingers, and your best friend by your side. All relatively familiar images to anyone who was ever nervous in elementary school. At that age the world was our playground; we could do anything we wanted. If we were asked what we wanted to be we said the President of the United States. If we were asked again after two seconds we said a firefighter. Then, going outside in the rain didn’t mean catching a cold, but a good time with a lot of water.

So why don’t we feel the same way now? Sure we don’t want to be a firefighter anymore, but what happened to that can-do attitude? The answer’s simple, life happened. Far too often we’re discouraged by the curve balls of our existence. The bills, the classes, and the children all distract us from our dreams and ambitions. How do we get them back? Well first admit that the high school jersey from 19-forever ago just isn’t going to fit anymore, and maybe the person in the yearbook photo just isn’t worth trying to reconnect with. Ok so now we have a clean slate.

Let’s start by acknowledging what we have done. We’ve made it this far in life; whether you’re in college, starting a new career, or raising a family you’re not dead, AND you didn’t give your mother a heart attack in the process. I think that deserves a few snaps (I just watched “Legally Blonde”, so bear with me). Along with the not being dead part comes the bills, which seem to be as natural as breathing. Nevertheless, they’re paid or in the process of being paid. The first step to that can-do attitude is the step back to those self- motivating talks. (We all know you were the one giving yourself pep talks before the test.)

Phase two is even simpler- figure out what you want to do and do it. Start a business? Write a book? Get all A’s? Have a Mustang? Go for it! No matter how big or how small just do it. This is the time where the saying “The only one stopping you is you.” has never been more true. So what you don’t know how to run a business? Learn. Ok, maybe a Mustang is expensive. Save. Work probably does keep you away from your kids. Cut back or compromise. There’s no excuse, especially when people with less than you are doing more than you.

We’re a part of this species that has done amazing things- landed on the moon and reproduced at alarming rates- so why is your dream so unattainable? Only because you say it is. The one thing we haven’t done is discovered the fountain of youth, so you’re not getting any younger. Now is the time to accomplish those dreams. The time to get out there and at least try. Sure you may fall, but at least you would’ve played in the rain.

 Lots of Love,


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Posted by on January 16, 2014 in Be Encouraged


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