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Where Cosmo got it wrong…2015 Trends that need to R.I.P

Where Cosmo got it wrong…2015 Trends that need to R.I.P

Twitter has erupted with the new discovery of Cosmopolitan’s “21 Beauty Trends That Need to Die in 2015”  due to the fact that all the black women included in the article are featured in the “R.I.P.” category or  trends that need to go.  Such categorization has some publicly encouraging the boycotting of the magazine, while others have taken to the social media site with hashtags like #whatitsliketobeablackgirl. Yet my problem isn’t with the topic of categorization but why it exists to begin with, so in response to Cosmopolitan and all those crying wolf over this “problem” here’s my list of Attitudes That Need to Die in 2015.

1. Playing the victim: While racism in this world does still exist, it is important to know how to choose your battles. Sure there are 4 women in this article who are black, and all of them are in the “R.I.P.” category, but what about the remaining 17 who are either White or Hispanic who are also in this category? They aren’t taking to social media and hashtagging their lives away because it doesn’t matter. Sure as a community we have been dealt some dirty hands, but does this article really compare to the Trayvon Martins of this world? I think not. I mean sure Cosmopolitan has apologized, wonderful, but what about the apologies for all the deaths and injustice? Hmmm…crickets. So take a step back, reevaluate the seriousness of situations, and wonder why you’re worrying about the opinions of shrimp if you consider yourself a shark.

2. Discounting people because of race, features, etc.: One important thing I noticed about the Huffington Post article– which brought my attention to this outrage in the first place– is that they continually discount Nicole Richie’s inclusion in the Cosmo list because she is mixed. The same thing occurred when President Obama first took office as the world continually referred to his Hawaiian/White descent and began to discount him as a black man. However this isn’t just a problem in the media but also in our everyday lives. Just look on social media and you’ll see team light skins and team dark skins, team relaxed, natural, texlaxed, Hatian, Jamaican and everything in between. The constant segregation of our community from the inside needs to stop, and we need to learn to embrace and learn from each others strengths and weaknesses.

3. Instigating: Along with those who play the victim every time a horn sounds are those who add flame to the fire by supporting the ignorance whether knowledgeable or not. Take for instance all those who have retweeted others post on the Cosmo article, and of all those retweets all the incorrect information that was spread. Think of all the individuals who may not have taken the time to view the article themselves, but still tweeted about it just because it was trending.

4. Boxing: Now I don’t mean boxing as in self-defense. By all means if you feel the need to learn to protect yourself, as I feel we all should, do so and have fun while doing it. Feel empowered by doing it, but when you’re boxing people into a stereotype, look or any other aspect of someone’s life just because you think it’s not okay I have to stop you. The whole article is based on styles that some secluded group of people says is out of style. Changing my hair color from ombre to some fancy new dying trick should not be something I’m told needs to “R.I.P.” and it definitely shouldn’t be something I’m put down for. Last time I checked, my capability to shave one side of my head did not become more difficult just because a new year rolled around. Therefore I’d appreciate it if Cosmo and everyone other “fashion magazine” could learn that they have no right to tell me how to dress or do my hair. I understand that it’s all a part of the game, but if that’s the case then change the rules because you have a big enough audience to do so. If you refuse to change the rules, then stop acting like you’re trying to help empower women when every other season you’re telling them that they’re doing “it” wrong: from hair, to love, to smiling, to friending, to posting, to moisturizing, to sex, to family…how is you discounting my judgment suppose to empower me? It’s simply going to conform and destroy me.

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Posted by on April 5, 2015 in Be Pensive

 

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Finding Me

Finding Me

Since beginning college I’ve learned a lot about myself. How I act, what I like, who I like, why I act the way I do, etc. These realizations have helped me become a better person towards others and myself, and I’ve grown tremendously. But as of late I haven’t been feeling that such growth has translated into my wardrobe. I have some tunics, a lot of heels, some dresses, skirts and such but nothing that yells “THIS IS ME!”

Now I’m changing that one step at a time. I recently took part in Hollister’s $25 Jeans Sale to expand my “wearable” jeans collection from four to six. (In reality I currently have 10 pairs of jeans from eight, but like all women I have my faves. These Hollister jeans have just joined the pack.) I also brought a new pair of heels and flats to match them and some flats to match my older heels from Charlotte Russe. Target and Ross are also particularly close, so I’ve brought a skirt or two and some blouses from them, but before this closet conquest began I had to plan.

First I needed to figure out where I was going– like I do before I take on any major task. I looked at my lifestyle and decided what I wanted my wardrobe to look like. Now part one is a bit harder on revamping your wardrobe because you discover a lot of new styles, and you want them all. The key here is to be practical. Take a good look at your life and be honest– if you don’t go to an abundance of weddings or the likes and you prefer your time with your children, than you probably don’t need an abundance of dresses. Believe me it’s hard when you see all the “A-line this” and “pencil that’s” that would look terrific for that one time you had to go to that one thing, but take it from me it’s a waste of money. I had already started a board on Pinterest with styles and full outfits I admired on other ladies, so when I reviewed those I just looked for what style filled the majority of my board. (If you don’t own a Pinterest 1) get one because it’ll change your life and 2) don’t fret because you can easily use magazines and blogs to find styles you like.) I found that the majority of my board consisted of everything pencil dress/skirt related for work/formal attire and a simple jean, top and shoes look for my more casual lifestyle. My board also included quite a bit of gowns and A-line vintage dresses, but again we have to remember to be practical when revamping our closets, so those won’t be on the purchase list just yet.

Once I had settled on what I wanted my closet to look like I began purchasing the required items for said project. I started at Ross, Charlotte Russe and of course Victoria Secret– you can’t revive your wardrobe and leave your undies out to dry…they needed a makeover too. I chose Ross because it’s really easy to find cute tops for really cheap and as a college student this is a must. However, everything that glitters ain’t gold, so Charlotte Russe was my store for the more naturally fragile things like scarfs and heels because quality ALWAYS beats quantity. Victoria Secret has been my go to for all things “unmentionable” for a while now, I just hadn’t acquired the amount of undergarments I’d like (i.e. my bra game needed some help.) I went to other stores too like JustFab, Amazon and Target; but those were my staple stores.

Now I found that the best way to shop is in pairs, that is in outfits. When I was younger I would go into a store and pick a top from here, a bottom from there, those cute shoes over there, or maybe that sweater/hoodie there and be on my way. (Mind you none of these things matched, and I often had to go home and play the memory game with my closet to make outfits out of new and “gently used” clothes.) This fiasco went on for a while until my friend’s mom sat us down to chat about shopping:

“When you buy clothes, always pay for what you get. If you buy cheap and get bad quality it’s your own fault… Always buy outfits together. Get the top, the bottom and the shoes together– if you don’t already have something at home– that way you know what you can wear it with.”

This tidbit of information stuck with me all these years, so when it was time to shop I brought outfits just how she had taught me. It would seem like a simple resolve to buy whole outfits instead of just pieces, but common sense isn’t so common.

My wardrobe is now slowly coming together– I have a minor shopping problem, so maybe slowly isn’t the word– but I’m starting to wake up and put together fabulous outfits with little to no effort. I just received three packages today; one with shoes, one with a jacket and another with a DVD. (That last one is for my midterm I promise.) The heels are cobalt blue and the flats are blue, blush and a hot pink. I’ve been waiting for them for a week, so I’m really excited to finally be able to wear them. It’s kind of hard to explain, but there’s this exhilarating feeling I get from turning my purchases into fab outfits that scream “THIS IS ME!”

 

Note: Some blogs I’ve read say that you also need to find your color scheme. That means that you choose a family, or families, of colors and purchase according to that group. I’m all for having the staple nude colors, but I don’t know if I’d say I have go to colors. I have a lot of corals and blues, but not on purpose, and I barely wear either of them. I just buy what I like when I see it. I feel that if you’re purchasing individual items, than having a color scheme for your closet is good so you know that you have something at home to match it. However, if you have an abundance of neutral clothes and/or you buy your clothes as outfits (and not individual pieces) you should have no problem. 🙂

 

 
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Posted by on February 18, 2015 in Be Yourself

 

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