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Where Cosmo got it wrong…2015 Trends that need to R.I.P

Where Cosmo got it wrong…2015 Trends that need to R.I.P

Twitter has erupted with the new discovery of Cosmopolitan’s “21 Beauty Trends That Need to Die in 2015”  due to the fact that all the black women included in the article are featured in the “R.I.P.” category or  trends that need to go.  Such categorization has some publicly encouraging the boycotting of the magazine, while others have taken to the social media site with hashtags like #whatitsliketobeablackgirl. Yet my problem isn’t with the topic of categorization but why it exists to begin with, so in response to Cosmopolitan and all those crying wolf over this “problem” here’s my list of Attitudes That Need to Die in 2015.

1. Playing the victim: While racism in this world does still exist, it is important to know how to choose your battles. Sure there are 4 women in this article who are black, and all of them are in the “R.I.P.” category, but what about the remaining 17 who are either White or Hispanic who are also in this category? They aren’t taking to social media and hashtagging their lives away because it doesn’t matter. Sure as a community we have been dealt some dirty hands, but does this article really compare to the Trayvon Martins of this world? I think not. I mean sure Cosmopolitan has apologized, wonderful, but what about the apologies for all the deaths and injustice? Hmmm…crickets. So take a step back, reevaluate the seriousness of situations, and wonder why you’re worrying about the opinions of shrimp if you consider yourself a shark.

2. Discounting people because of race, features, etc.: One important thing I noticed about the Huffington Post article– which brought my attention to this outrage in the first place– is that they continually discount Nicole Richie’s inclusion in the Cosmo list because she is mixed. The same thing occurred when President Obama first took office as the world continually referred to his Hawaiian/White descent and began to discount him as a black man. However this isn’t just a problem in the media but also in our everyday lives. Just look on social media and you’ll see team light skins and team dark skins, team relaxed, natural, texlaxed, Hatian, Jamaican and everything in between. The constant segregation of our community from the inside needs to stop, and we need to learn to embrace and learn from each others strengths and weaknesses.

3. Instigating: Along with those who play the victim every time a horn sounds are those who add flame to the fire by supporting the ignorance whether knowledgeable or not. Take for instance all those who have retweeted others post on the Cosmo article, and of all those retweets all the incorrect information that was spread. Think of all the individuals who may not have taken the time to view the article themselves, but still tweeted about it just because it was trending.

4. Boxing: Now I don’t mean boxing as in self-defense. By all means if you feel the need to learn to protect yourself, as I feel we all should, do so and have fun while doing it. Feel empowered by doing it, but when you’re boxing people into a stereotype, look or any other aspect of someone’s life just because you think it’s not okay I have to stop you. The whole article is based on styles that some secluded group of people says is out of style. Changing my hair color from ombre to some fancy new dying trick should not be something I’m told needs to “R.I.P.” and it definitely shouldn’t be something I’m put down for. Last time I checked, my capability to shave one side of my head did not become more difficult just because a new year rolled around. Therefore I’d appreciate it if Cosmo and everyone other “fashion magazine” could learn that they have no right to tell me how to dress or do my hair. I understand that it’s all a part of the game, but if that’s the case then change the rules because you have a big enough audience to do so. If you refuse to change the rules, then stop acting like you’re trying to help empower women when every other season you’re telling them that they’re doing “it” wrong: from hair, to love, to smiling, to friending, to posting, to moisturizing, to sex, to family…how is you discounting my judgment suppose to empower me? It’s simply going to conform and destroy me.

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Posted by on April 5, 2015 in Be Pensive


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1 out of 100

1 out of 100


I’m a WOMAN! It’s something I’ve been waiting for since I was 15– you know that stage were you only have 3 years until you’re “grown”, you know everything, and bugs still make you squeal. Yep. I’d been waiting for it, and now that I’m turning 21 I’m ready to hit the pause button and embrace womanhood. Now with great titles come great responsibility, and I’ve taken them on willingly.

As a woman I have the right to pay bills, vote, be equally employed, laugh, shed tears, go crazy, go to war, stay at home, raise a family, get a degree, argue, and eat chocolate– my favorite. This new age of adulthood comes with a lot of rights, including the one to love myself and sometimes not even want to look at myself, and as a woman I’m accepting that more with each fleeting day.  And I find that as I accept I won’t always like what reflects in the mirror, my days get easier and my love grows stronger.

The CIA says there’s about 107 men to every 100 women. That means that seven lucky men are going to have to make that sacrifice and take on an extra wife– and I think my boyfriend got the luck of the draw. (Now I’m neither for or against polygamy… my stance is whatever makes you happy. Just don’t ask me to share. So I’m not saying he has a second girlfriend, but with my new found right he may feel like he does. )

From day to day I wake up thinking about who I want to be.  For as many faces and colors are in that photo, I wake up in the mood of each one. Some days I’m silly, others I’m philosophical. Some days I’m Aubrey, and others I’m Pink. (My boyfriend’s right is to figure out which I am from second to hour and act accordingly.)  I use to think there was a problem with my flip  in characters; like by some divine law I was restricted to one personality for the rest of my life– and some of that may have been because of the all the movies I watch. Aside from Miss Congeniality not many movies/shows I grew up with portrayed that a girl could be glamorous and adventurous. So when I found myself changing out of jeans and a tee with hopes of embracing the mascara and sandals the next day, I thought I just didn’t know who I was.

Now six years later… I see that I always have, and that a lot of people like it. Gone are the days where I look to my glamour girls and sigh because their makeup is intrusive and I’m not even sure what it’s called. Gone are the days where the dawn of a new school year brings about the decision to either be girly or athletic. I’m going to be comfortable! And that’s the only decision that truly matters. As long as you’re comfortable in what you wear, look presentable, and use all hygienic measures you’re good to go.

I can’t pinpoint when I made this realization. I know being in a sorority where there are a variety of girly athletes and glamour girls has helped, but most of it I would say was accepting and maturing. Accepting that maybe  Whitney was on to something when she sang “I’m Every Woman”, and maturing into my own skin without over comparing myself to my peers. My mom tells everyone I love wearing pants– but that doesn’t mean I can’t own a couple hundred dresses.

Caitlin Moran said it best:

“When a woman says, ‘I have nothing to wear!’, what she really means is, ‘There’s nothing here for who I’m supposed to be today.”



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Posted by on July 28, 2014 in Be Yourself


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Have a clear mind and get fit…with a proper diet

Have a clear mind and get fit…with a proper diet

It’s two-thirds of the way through summer and my junkie habits are at an all-time high. Chips, soda, juice, pizza, burgers, chips, cake, ribs, hotdogs, chicken — you name it I’ve had it. And if you’re anything like me, you have too, but it’s time to whip ourselves back into shape. August will be here in less than two weeks, and trailing behind it will be that too tight costume you want to wear for Halloween. You could put it off until then, but — let’s be honest — that didn’t work out for you last year. Never fear Super Smexy is here to save your bod the embarrassment of the summer jiggles. (Don’t worry, no heavy lifting required.)

Meet your new best friends: avocado, broccoli, lemon and yogurt NOT of the “FroYo” variety. Avocados cleanse your liver and block the absorption of certain fats in the intestines says Keri Glassman, M.S., R.D.

Normally used as toppings for your festive corn chips, avocados can also be used on tacos, sandwiches, salads and a bunch more.

To get you started try Tyler Florence’s Pan-Seared Tuna with Avocado, Soy, Ginger, and Lime. This and many other great Avocado recipes can be found on the Food Network. You and your second bestie, broccoli, may not hit it off at first, but with a bit of prep time it will help you into that itsy bitsy bikini with summertime to spare.

Kate from “The Natural Life” suggests a puree of broccoli soup. The dish includes a half a pound of chopped broccoli, 2 cups of vegetable broth, cayenne pepper for your spicy delight, and some sea salt. Boil, blend, sprinkle and enjoy. In the end this love/ hate relationship will help cleanse your liver and be a great source of Vitamin C, according to the India Times — and I mean they have great bodies, so we should listen to them.

Remember when mom use to tell you to put down the Caprisun and drink some water? Well it may be time to listen. Don’t forget to add lemon. According to the TimeToCleanse site, lemons can help cleanse your liver and aid in food digestion.

It’s abundant in vitamin C and B6, as well as calcium. You can even drizzle some on that avocado salad and let the good times roll.

Another fan favorite is yogurt, but not the one located in the frozen section.

Yogurts that contain probiotics allows for healthy bacteria to fortify the GI tract’s natural flora, which aids in digestion and increases your natural immune response according to Glassman, M.S., R.D. Sure it means you’ll actually have to read the label on the yogurt containers instead of just trusting the pretty packaging, but at least you’ll be nice and healthy come time for classes to start.

Finally, it’s time to trash all the fructose.

Fructose corn syrup is found in juice, sodas, and almost anything that satisfies your sweet tooth — therefore it is the enemy. Too much added sugar in one’s diet can contribute to unwanted weight gain, metabolic syndrome and type 2 diabetes according to the Mayo Clinic. The best alternative is to substitute all those sugary drinks for a nice cold glass of water. After all, a glass of water during and before a meal can help fill you up and satisfies your thirst rather than your sweet tooth.

Since fats are kissing cousins of added sugar, they have to go too. (Sorry my beloved meat lovers pizza, but you contain at least 12.14 grams of fat that are just going straight to my thighs.) Your main target in the fat industry are saturated fats because they are high in calories, according to LiveStrong. Saturated fats can be found in many meat products, as well as butter, fried foods and baked goods. To battle the saturated blues it’s a good idea to replace one fat with another. Monounsaturated fats and polyunsaturated fats — which can be found in fish, seeds, nuts and avocados — can be healthy alternatives to the normally saturated fat diet.

Like any other healthy alternative, cleansing your body of toxins does more than just help you look good. It can also help you ward off illnesses such as cancer and diabetes, as well as provide a boost in energy that most unhealthy foods take away.

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Posted by on July 28, 2014 in Articles


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She’s growing up

“Hannah your mom brought you that?”

“No. I brought it.”

“Hannah you brought that with your money?”


“You have a job?”


Her name is Alexia, and I’ve known her for seven years. When we met she was about four. She was smart and she was driven. She was driven to be like myself and every other girl older than her. So every time I came to church with something new she came with the same questions.  (And she still does.)

Now she’s using lip gloss and body spray, and she’s learned to roll her eyes.  (Wonderful.) She’s growing up into beautiful young lady, but she has some challenges to face and that’s where I come in.  Just the other day I noticed Alexia getting excited because her dress is getting shorter. My first reaction was anger. (She’s too young to want to show off the little goods she does have. I’m still trying to figure out how to handle mine, and she’s ready to flaunt hers? No, just no.) But then I remembered how I felt at her age when my favorite skirt started getting shorter. I was excited too, and that’s when I realized that she wasn’t wrong for feeling that way. We were wrong for teaching it to her.

Short dresses and tight clothes seem to be the staple item in women clothing.  So Alexia’s first sign that she’s growing up is her short dress. She isn’t excited cause she wants to show off anything. She’s excited because she’s growing up. She realizes that she’s not a little girl anymore and, though that may bother her at times, it’s exciting.  So instead of getting mad at her, I sit her down and tell her that there’s more to growing up than getting attention and showing body parts. (I, of course, give her the rated G version of the convo.) I make sure she know it’s her brains that make her a young lady and not how she looks or what she wears.  I tell her that it’s how she carries herself that makes her beautiful, but she needs more. So I show her in the way I live. (After all she does look up to me, so she’s watching what I do. ) I hold off on a boyfriend because I want her to know that a man doesn’t make you a woman, but an education does. She knows I have guy friends, but she also knows that I’m involved back at my college, and I study hard.  I avoid dressing too provocative because I want her to know that showing skin doesn’t make you a woman. (Sometimes I’ll even wear a floral pattern or a graphic tee, so she understands that we’re not so different after all.)

Watching her grow, I’ve noticed that sometimes being upset and disappointed doesn’t do anything but break her spirit. My grandpa always said that “Those that know better do better.” (I think he was on to something.) Therefore, I can’t be mad with the way she acts sometimes because she doesn’t know any better. It’s my job– as the big sister because she refuses to call me anything else– to teach her better. She listens too. Sure I may have to remind her, but she gets what I’m saying. She’s growing up, but she’ll always be my princess. However now I’m not just her playmate, but also a confidante and an advisor. She’ll always be my princess, but she’s becoming a queen– and it’s my job to help her get her crown.

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Posted by on March 4, 2014 in Be Encouraged


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Cruelty-free beauty


Be eco-friendly and still keep that sun-kissed glow with these DIY recipes and beauty products.

Face masks:

   Homemade Strawberry Mask-

       Strawberries are rich in antioxidants; therefore they promote the anti-aging of skin cells. They are also rich in vitamin C, which plays a role in the production of collagen, allowing for firm, elastic skin. Strawberries also contain salicylic acid, which can rid skin of dead cells. They help whiten and protect skin from diseases, which allows them to reduce the appearance of under-eye dark circles. A simply DIY mask includes the following:

•8-9 fresh strawberries

•3 tablespoons of honey

Mash the strawberries in a bowl and add the honey. Clean your hands and use a sanitized brush to apply the mixture all over your face. Leave the mask on for 10 to 15 minutes. Wash off with warm water, pat dry and moisturize.

  Honey Cinnamon Face Mask –

Cinnamon is believed to shrink issue, and honey is considered an anti-bacterial agent. Either way, this facial mask works as a wonderful cleanser and a delicious topping. What you’ll need:

•1 tablespoon of honey

•1 teaspoon of cinnamon powder

•1 teaspoon of nutmeg powder

Mix the ingredients, and apply the mask to clean skin. Let it sit for 20 minutes, then wash off with lukewarm water. Moisturize and repeat weekly.


Make-Up International is a cruelty-free brand offering foundations, eyeliner and mascaras. The brand has been cruelty-free since 1987 and also supports the Child Safety Education Fund, providing anti-bullying programs and supplies to schools.

Clinique’s Perfectly Real foundation provides for a natural coverage that comes at no cost for our furry friends. It’s also lightweight and oil-free.

Revlon ColorStay foundation provides an assortment of cruelty-free shades for a low cost. It provides medium to full coverage and lasts all day.

EcoTools offers cruelty-free brushes, bathing tools, hair brushes and lashes all packaged in recycled material. Their motto: “Look beautiful, live beautifully.”

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Posted by on March 1, 2014 in Articles


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Find the perfect lip balm

Find the perfect lip balm


   During these winter months, women sport the infamous knee high boots and leggings, paired with the cutest winter coats and scarfs. They wear their hair in curls, and their curls wear bows. Of course, no one would expect anything less from the women of South Florida. After all, fashion is what we do best. But there is still one dilemma every diva faces, and that’s the burden of chapped lips. We bear the winter weather all snuggled and warm only to find that our lip balm has left us chapped and exposed. And what do we do? We reapply that pout killer for the 10th time since we left the house, which was ten minutes ago. Shame on you. Don’t you know that our lips are vulnerable? They have fewer layers of skin than the rest of our body, so they need a little extra TLC (tender, loving care). But how do you tell the Lip Smackers from the CoverGirls? By simply checking what they’re made of.

   Glycerin, mineral oil and aloe are known for holding in moisture. Yu-Be Lip Therapy is a glycerin based product that also contains vitamin E, a vitamin that can help heal and moisturize chapped lips. This balm is perfect for those on a budget and can be purchased at Sephora for $5.

   Another Sephora beauty is Dior Crème de Rose Smoothing Plumping Lip Balm. This balm plumps lips as it hydrates. It contains SPF 10 and provides the pleasant smell of roses. Sold for $27, it’s the ideal everyday balm. Carmex is a brand that creates a variety of lip balms. Their Ultra Hydrating Moisture Plus Lip Balm contains both aloe and vitamin E. With SPF 15, this balm also offers sun protection for your lips. This can be purchased for $2.48 at Walmart.

   For those who want instantly softer lips, beeswax, lanolin and Shea butter are the key ingredients for your go-to balms. Carmex’s Soothing lip balm contains lanolin and beeswax as well as mineral oil, making it a must-have for women everywhere. It’s one of my personal favorites as it moisturizes and provides a little shine for a gloss finish. It can be found at Target for $3.

   If you’d rather stick to Sephora products, Lavanila is “The Healthy Lip Screen” and contains Shea butter for $16. It includes zinc oxide and titanium dioxide for long-lasting moisture. It also has SPF 30 for sun protection.

   If you’d like to add some color to the mix, simply apply the color over your lip balm. If doing this, I suggest not using the Carmex Soothing Lip Balm, given its glossy texture. We may no longer carry Lip Smackers in our pocket, but we can still have those baby smooth lips. After all, the winter months are the best time to cuddle.

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Posted by on February 25, 2014 in Articles


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Slim & Sexy for Spring Break

Slim & Sexy for Spring Break


Spring break is two weeks away, so I think it’s safe to say it’s time to start preparing. Gathering your friends and planning your spring break destination is just the first step. Next, you need to get your wardrobe together, but if you indulged a little too much over the holidays, it may be harder than expected. Here’s how to look hot in the sand without breaking the bank.

It all starts with what you eat. To get a flat stomach, shift your carbohydrates. Slow down on the breads, pastas and rice, but increase the berries and cherries. Berries are high in fiber, which means they’ll minimize the amount of calories you absorb. They’re also known to be rich in antioxidants, which improve blood flow and help muscles contract more efficiently during workouts. Another tummy-friendly food is the grapefruit. This fruit’s acidity helps slow digestion, making you feel fuller longer. However, a diet of all fruits is still not a healthy one. Adding protein to your diet can boost metabolism and help you shed some extra pounds.

If weight is less of an issue than toning Blogilates may be the solution for you. Blogilates is a YouTube channel run by Casey Ho, a Pilates instructor. Pilates focuses on core strengthening and flexibility and requires nothing more than a mat and open space. Squats are a nice way to tone up your butt and thighs. If you’re a beginner simply lean against a wall with your legs shoulder width apart, then pretend to sit in a chair. A hundred squats a day will result in muscle toning just in time to hit the beach. For a less time consuming workout, you may want to try walking more. With the extra calories burned, walking to and from class can help get you in shape.

There are also a variety of workout classes offered by the Recreational Center throughout the week. The classes last for about an hour and are sure to get you in tip-top shape for whatever you have planned this break. Just remember that a balance between your foods and exercise is necessary, so make sure to stay healthy, stay active and be comfortable in your own skin.

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Posted by on February 25, 2014 in Articles


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